October Girl

Its October! 

It’s my Birth month!!

I have made a few realisations after living approximately 14000 days on this beautiful planet. These realisations result from my addiction to constant and never-ending efforts on self-improvement and constantly raising the bar to attain the best version of myself. While many things in my life have changed in a year, there is some constant. Even before I started to pen down (aka type down) these understandings, I was sure they were not some out-of-world thoughts. Many people must have felt the same and lived through this awareness in their life journey, but these are unique to mine and, hence, are essential.

Nevertheless, my three fundamental and near-to-heart realisations have found a deeper meaning in my life.

1. Time is valuable, but valued time is precious. My childhood was devoid of the continual presence of electronic interference in lives; instead, it had the actual existence of people with proper display of human care. Time spent with them is most valuable and imprinted forever in my heart.

Finding people around me always engrossed in their mobile/tablet screens makes me sad. We may be diving out into the sea of impressionable emotions displayed by screens but simultaneously losing the worth of true feelings and words. To the natives of the soul born in this era, they find the love of their mother blend, the care of their father burdensome, and real talking boring as they live a virtual life that looks glamorous and all colourful. Their imagination seems bright but robotic, and their sensitivity towards others' feelings appears plastic. They are stuck with acquaintances under the enchantment of some movie character/video form or viral reel. In such a state, my most profound realisation is creating a valued time for myself and my family and living a more human life.

To have valued time, I have pledged to add more real-time rather than reel time and by being available.

2. Detachment is nectar. Detangling oneself from the web of expectations is the most fantastic learning art. Especially during these times when we are controlled mainly by the e-world, the skill to preserve our thoughts and original form is the most extraordinary achievement. With time, I have realised that logging off from toxic people, glittering web series or irrelevant political sagas on YouTube is better for my physical, mental and emotional well-being. In work life, to the never-ending saga of promotion, transfer, and better opportunity, my answer is to work honestly and sincerely without any attachments to the end result.

Keeping a safe distance from all the happening around me and yet becoming part of each event- this is the golden realisation I have learnt with time. I have started to practice this trait and comparatively found peace of mind. Surprisingly, I have developed more empathy towards others and a better sense of humour! The art of seeing the situation from different angles gives a better perspective about the world, and detachment is the first move towards attaining a divergent view.

My second realisation is to live a light-hearted life and keep “wholly” in mind by detaching myself.

3. The pause(s). Have you ever paused as an ambulance passed and just prayed for the well-being of the person and family's well-being? Have you ever stood still and enjoyed the chirping of birds? I have, with time, developed this habit.

The little pauses in life create the required magic. For me, be it a pause in the form of a silent moment, a smile for no reason, a hug to my kid or a pat on the back of my partner…, these are the little pauses that are kind of a much-required way of unspoken interaction energising the soul.

These hopeful moments make me cherish the act that I am a human being, not a mere clog in the wheel of economy or a spare-part of a machine called society. These pauses are my short-term response to long-term and constant chaos around. These pauses are my strength-building moments.

The pause for self-reflection is the third realisation in this phase of my life.

With these realisations, I seek blessings from you.

Please share your thoughts and keep inspiring me to live a life with the most positive vibe.