Who is he?

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Disclaimer- After briefing my view on her through the blog post "Who is She ", this post is an attempt at my introspection on the “status” of the other  "50% " of the population. The basis of the write-up is what I have observed and felt.


Is He a Ram or a Raavan?

Is He a Krishna or a Kansa?

Is He a Kalki or a Kali?


Glory is his other name, or is it retirement time for this whimsical term?

Since the inception of cultures and civilisations, males in our societies have been set to perform and tick specific criteria. The he-man of our society has since tried his best to live up to this reputation over time. However, nervousness is visible in him, primarily in the current times, when his defined roles are being questioned, and he himself conflicts with the hypothesis of malehood.

These defined his-roles are formulated either through self-imposed judgments gathered from the experiences of others or through upbringing notions set in him, leading to specific images being held. e.g.

“He” is strong, and there is no way he can have any emotional issues! - The formidable man symbol image!

“He” does not cry, and there is no way he can be soft! - The NO-Tear face!


“He” cannot complain about the load of responsibility, and there is no option for seeking help! - The Macho statuette!


“He” is a family-man, and there is no way his denying of family responsibility is accepted - The Noble Son-Husband Persona!


“He” is a breadwinner, although his partner is earning, and there is no way he can sit at home—The Provider Figure!
This glorification of him either by himself, the people around him, or society certainly does not allow him to live a “Normal” life. The normalcy needs to be established now. Because being joyous and expressing the same is reasonable. Speaking the heart out is not a gender-specific activity. The sharing-caring attitude is a human thing and not some male-female agenda.

Isn’t it a time to unburden himself from the rags of role-defined expectations and let him be light in mind and heart?

Life is not fair to anyone. However, his transformation journey should begin now, and the first step is right from our houses.

It is time that we start celebrating him for himself—for all the things he does in silence, for all the struggles he goes through, and for all the smiles his efforts bring. It is time for him to feel respect genuinely.

Let him live the yin-yang of his life.

Let us celebrate him as a son, brother, husband, and friend, not a mere breadwinner!

Comments

  1. Aditi BansalSeptember 28, 2024 at 5:32 AM

    Very true

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  2. Capt SangwanSeptember 28, 2024 at 7:04 AM

    Well described HE-Man.

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  3. MrinalSeptember 28, 2024 at 7:08 AM

    Great points raised, Ekta. This conversation is an absolute need of the hour. With transitioning society (especially urban) redefining gender roles in a more inclusive way is important for balance and equality.

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  4. Jayesh MistrySeptember 28, 2024 at 8:50 AM

    Life is not fair to anyone-well said. It’s a matter of Yin-Yang balance for everyone. The realisation that he or she has to navigate this balance would put the situations in right perspective the outcome of which would be harmony.

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