Learning respect (Advice to my kids)
Dear Filhos (sons in Portuguese),
As you are growing, you are beginning to understand what it feels like to be “liked” and “appreciated.” Sometimes, you might find yourself changing your behaviour to fit what others want, just so that “the feeling” of being respected and being heard stays with you.
But kidos, here is something important to remember: “being liked”, “being appreciated”, or “being called” are not the same as “being respected”. Keep in mind that being respected is a higher level of appreciation and admiration. It doesn’t come from just anyone, and it’s not about money or social status.
True respect comes from someone whose state of mind and soul allows them to agree to disagree, while still valuing and giving credit to your point of view. When you meet those kinds of people, you can be yourself and yet they respect you for being yourself!! Their admiration doesn’t hinge on fitting a mold. Instead, it is as if the very core of you is enough—the quirks, the dreams, even the wild ideas.
The key to “unlocking” the world of respect is that it is always a two-way street—if you want it, you have to give it, too.
So, if you really want people to respect you, the best way is to show respect to others. That means being kind and thoughtful to your friends, your elders, and even to animals and nature!
Think of respect as a SUPERPOWER that helps you understand how others feel. When you use this superpower, it is easier to make friends and feel happy around others. You will become someone everyone wants to be around.
Be humble, stay genuine, be firm and keep putting in your smart, hard work and all the respect due to you shall follow..
Your Mamãe.
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Mantra No. 11 - Speak to everyone in the same way, whether he or she is a beggar or the president.
Quote from the great mind - “If you want to be respected by others, the great thing is to respect yourself. Only by that, only by self-respect will you compel others to respect you." — Fyodor Dostoevsky
Respect to self and other is a great tool to understand what you want good for self is too for others, if you respect other then only you feel better for self, respect is a excellent traits what Almighty has given to human being which generates kindness, it's also first school of behaviours which is taught by your parents, family and others members of surrounding. Self respect is more important than anything else you want to know how it's effect yours inner self,m or how inner humanity effects in day to day life.its natural only when you respect self and then others too, great and very thoughtful Artical written by you Ekta.
ReplyDeleteNice ly explained ekta hope kids (all) will imbibe this great nature's natural law of giving first whether it is love, kind, help, time, energy, money and ofcourse respect.
ReplyDeleteSo meaningful & such powerful essential gift of guidance you're imparting to your boys. . .Respect that's rooted in kindness and courage to be oneself is what allows humanity to shine. . This will truly further shape them into strong & compassionate human beings. .
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